The Caring Souls Forum up till recently offered its 703 members a place where therapy and counselling professionals and others in such training could create some “support” (without offering formal therapy and counselling duties) but ethically it stood in a difficult halfway house territory of personal pain and personal disclosures and needs for deeper emotional answers , and it took risks within its key administrative ranks .
Those risks sadly were to recruit someone not suited to the role of being able to take stern public debate on an issue where many Caring Souls Forum members felt a very honest US female poster who had disclosed serious serial rape and abuse issues in her childhood was given contrary signals about whether to continue or not .
UserWatch knows there is a serious human need for people to gather on the internet and find fellowships of kinds which suit them and it is a reflection on our societies that in emotional terms we have poorly containing Offline human solutions .
State therapy services particularly, and even some private services are of very dubious quality in therapy terms. Empathic quality (the ability to feel with and into another's inner map) cannot necessarily be trained within some staff or practitioners who internally speaking are role playing the machine idea-end of “therapy” .
Its a common complaint of people who need help that they often encounter unseeing professionals who are contrarily practiced at a kind of distant alientated form of objectivity ..
Empathic objectivity which is interrelational is missing . So its within this larger social context that people find themselves bereft of a special human hearing in which they can work with and progressively unload lives of pain and abuse that have been developmentally chained and cut off. Caring Souls Forum it has to be said was succeeding in some of that empathic endeavour.
It has been claimed by the Caring Souls Forum Moderator, a poster named "Willow", who contacted Silvis Rivers on NOWPublic.com following the UserWatch story put there, that the Caring Souls Forum Support Staff – a poster named “Souls” went into "meltdown" . That is a tragic matter.
This is part of the email sent to Silvis Rivers by Willow on Nowpublic.com - it is presented below:
“Because of some of the things going on recently in the forums... Souls had a complete meltdown... I know very little... and I don't know how much I should say without compromising her privacy..
I know that she started to break after some of the posts got a little out of hand. I saw one where she asked someone to stop using her name and another asking some people to leave the forums if they were not happy there... The following morning I was contacted by Fran and she told me Souls had sent her some very nasty emails and locked her out of the forum.
Since I am in the US... by the time I got on my computer many things had happened during the night... I am 5 hours behind the UK... At that time the forum had been locked down by Souls for many hours... I am glad she did that in a way... because it spared all the members from seeing some very disturbing things... Fran had been locked out as an administrator since the night before... all of the passwords had been changed and the email Fran and Souls shared had been deleted...”
Userwatch has a couple of things to say about “privacy” since the issue of concern over Souls privacy has been raised it is neccessary to address it .
Public interest overrides issues of privacy where harm and upset is caused in the public domain and where there is evidence of that . Critical views on this regarding the latest behaviour by the Forum Support staff Souls at Caring Souls Forum are necessary .
Userwatch has been approached by a number of the posters that went to Caring Souls Forum for harbour and some safe asylum - some are quite rightly complaining that their material is simply left without their choice to edit it , save it elsewhere or even delete it and make sure it is actually deleted .. There were private zones on the forum with private material in them which effectively are in the control of someone now who has shown some serious instability .
UserWatch has in its possession a picture claiming to be of Souls – the Forum Support at Caring Souls Forum.
That picture was apparently posted on a blog :
This was not a private blog – but it was made private late this February . However before that occurred, Google cached ( digitally stored) this blog . And UserWatch has some copies of the cached material . Some of that material was shown on Caring Souls Forum too .
So would this lady “Souls” decide to be reasonable , go and get some help - and give control back of the Caring Souls Forum to the main adminstrator “Fran” and let everyone heal the situation and move on ?
The ball we think is in that lady's court . Go and get some help, and leave everyone to form theirs . That is the right thing to do .
Meanwhile of Fran, we firmly believe she needs to account for herself to several hundred people in the US and UK and even Israel and other areas of the globe regarding her judgement on creating a risky situation and as she is a professional in the UK we hope should does this openly, and soon .
She can contact UserWatch
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